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Post by sabacred on Oct 8, 2006 21:57:04 GMT -5
So I know there are a lot of weak convos. on some other sites and like I said I want to make this site a site for expression. So with that said I will be posting some questions from time to time for the people to talk about. This is some of what I do in the workshops I run with the community and since this is a community why not build!!.
First question:
Tell us about the most challenging time in your life so far. What was the challenge? How did you cope or handle it?
I feel people may be able to learn from one another based on some of the answers or at least just express themselves and let some shit of your chests. Or, maybe we can see some of the same challenges and know we are not alone and have things in common.
Lets Build...
UNO
-Sabac Red-
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tony
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Post by tony on Oct 9, 2006 8:22:59 GMT -5
Thank You Sabac for adding this thread, I will be honest and speak the truth.
This is very personal to me and I wanted to let some feelings out from my chest.
The most challenging time in my life so far is when I was back in High school, when I lend some money to people because they needed it for something. People still owe me money from school. I will Soon have it all back. People used me a lot back in the days in school, School really fucked me up, the Teachers were not teaching the Students properly and only cared about themselves. I was happy when I left school in my last year. I then went to college, things are much better at college now and I am studying Computers, and it has changed my life, made new friends and everyone is growing up and getting older. Once I was waiting for the bus and a group of people just pushed in front of me and other people. I wanted to say something to them, but I couldn't because they were more bigger than me. I would have said something to them like you got wait for the bus at the back of the Que just like the rest of us, In situation's like that I always get nervous and scared and I always want to do something because it is not right, and I am thinking to myself what they might do to me if I say something to them? but if I try and fight with them, I could be in serious trouble, I always think twice is it worth it or not for everything you got and earned?
Sometimes when I am walking or riding my bike, I sometimes get racist abuse or swearing abuse directed at me by a passing car. Sometimes I don't want to go out because of that I always think it is going to happen again, but people got to go out. When that happens, I always feel down and say to myself what have I done to them? I lost my Dad in 1996 by Smoking and Drinking, and that was the hardest and saddest time in my life for me and my Family. People try and encourage me to smoke and drink, I say no. I don't usually socialize with friends that much only now and again, I am more like a independent person and like to do things myself. A lot of people want to challenge me for no reason, when I am walking sometimes, some people just shout at me for no reason and I don't even no the fools. I usually just ignore them, and I just keep doing what I am doing. At the end of the day If people want to argue or challenge you for no reason, always let them start first, then you finish it?
This is to me, and everyone else when you get into awkward situations or issues? Always think twice is it worth it or not for everything you got and earned? and At the end of the day If people want to argue or challenge you for no reason, always let them start first, then you finish it? People out there are suffering and dying and the Government only care about going to war and killing innocent civilian's and they don't even listen to us what we have to say?
I hope my message is useful to you all and hope you will take my advice and learn from my experience's. Take care!
Thank You
Peace
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skammadix
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Post by skammadix on Oct 9, 2006 19:16:19 GMT -5
I have a VERY long post that I will add to this thread when I have the time to sit down and compose it.
Tony, I'm sorry to hear that fam. Racism is the bane of society. I have seen both sides of the coin and neither one is pleasant. Stay up fam and rise above.
One.
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Post by MR BEATZ on Oct 10, 2006 12:52:46 GMT -5
I'm also gonna respond to this one when I have time to sit down and think things out and I'm not at work. I too can easily relate to the racism thing cuz I've dealt with it my whole life in so many ways. It's something that I know I'll continue to deal with and it's fucked up for everyone who deals with this on a day to day basis. You're definitely not alone tony.
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bex
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Post by bex on Oct 10, 2006 13:41:41 GMT -5
I'd have to say when I moved from B`more to ATL only to move Back to B`more than move to ATL again than Moved back to B`more and end up damn near homeless but coming up with a plan. got a job at a collections agency and I steped up my game by enrolling myself in College and getting a job only to have my employer tell me to make a choice to either to be a collections officer or go to school (WTF). I ended up leaving there only to end up going thru the same thing at a Hotel. I left there while still in school and living with relatives telling me I'd have to leave because I was not giving them enough money for rent (now I'm sleeping in a small ass bedroom with boxes and a airmattess to sleep on. paying 100.00 a month or sometimes $80.00 every 2 wks getting paid 7.50 an hr and paying %65 of my check to child support also not having money for transportion, oh yea and I walked like 6 miles to school and thru the whole time I kept my head up and very seldomly complained. And I find it fucked up when family say (if you help yourself we'll help you) but when your trying so damn hard to not end up like your parents and most of your family, they sometimes turn on you, but I refuse to let anyone or thing bring me down to that point to stop a person from making things better for themselves. Long story short 2 wks before the end of my school yr I got interviewed for a good position at a hospital where I work now, I graduated and also was blessed with an Apartment within 3-4wks before being unlawfully evicted. Thats why when things become very trying I go back to one of the lowest points in my life and realize i went thru a hell of alot and that just reminds me when I'm on my grind things can only get better.
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Post by criticalofcm on Oct 11, 2006 1:56:50 GMT -5
i got maaad respect for the dudes that posted on this thread cuz it is hard to put these type of experiences & feelings on public display but like Sabac said "maybe it will help others" growing up my mother always used to tell me this, "scars build character". sometimes the experiences & obsticles that we face help mold us into the unique, insightful & interesting people that we are today. for example, when i was a little boy i grew up in a very dysfunctional & violent family. i used to beg my mother to leave my father & would sit by the window praying that my pops would get arrested and not come home. one day my mother gathered up the courage and finally said fuckit and i helped her pack and leave new york for g00d and go as far as we can go all the way down south where he could not be able to ruin our lives. there were times where i resented the fact that we moved cuz i missed my family but later on i realized that if i never would have moved and had experienced the bullshit we went through then i wouldn't be the man i am today. right now i work at a grouphome as a counselor for foster children that have been through similar experiences. society is fucked up these days and the way i used to deal w/ things is by having an outlet to vent. for me it was writing & drawing. you got to find a way to channel all of that negative frustration. you guys sound like you're on the right path & i wish yall the best. hold ya head and maintain! cRIT
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tony
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Post by tony on Oct 13, 2006 16:30:30 GMT -5
First I like to say Thank You to Sabac for adding this thread, I like to say thank you to Skammadix, MR BEATZ and Crit for understanding my experiences and feelings in my life. I thought I was alone, but I was wrong, you guys have been through the same experiences and feelings, just like me. I appreciate your comments very much. I respect everyone's reviews and comments posted on this thread. It is hard to express your self on public display like Crit said, even I find it hard writing my experiences and feelings on public display, but I think it is the right thing to do, but like Sabac said this is a community, and we are all here to help one another. We all got a story to tell? Like sabac said on this thread ''maybe it will help others'' and I really hope people will learn from my experiences and feelings posted on this thread. All I want to do is to help others and try and make their lives better in life. I think this is a positive start, and hopefully we can all build. Take Care!
Thank You
Peace
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bex
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Post by bex on Oct 13, 2006 17:57:10 GMT -5
what I've learned and have come to realize is that, We All as people, black,white,latino,asian,native, whatever color or background you come from we are different YET the same. Sabac I also thank you for starting this thread.
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staas
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Post by staas on Oct 14, 2006 21:30:08 GMT -5
what i'm having trouble with right now is my best friend becoming a bigger cunt all the time, he had a fucking house and stopped going to work so he cano drugs and shit, and the fucking worst thing is he is having a fucking baby in a couple months that i know he won't take care of and he fucking lives on the street and mooches off people and tries to help himself by doing some wicca bullshit in the forest, i'm sick of spending my time trying to help the guy for like 6 years and him progressively becoming a worse person all the time , he fucking phones me like 15 times a day so he brag about stuff like doing crack that he should fucking be ashamed of and the one time i had free to go to the fucking movies with him he fucking never even showed up! i'm trying to get rid of the fucker now and can't think of a way to do it without somebody dying
sorry for the long ass post but having people show up to my door uninvited wanting toburn a tree down for some fucking wicca bullshit puts me in a bad fucking mood.
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Post by sabacred on Oct 15, 2006 11:54:46 GMT -5
As we can see people experience different challenges but the feelings are the same. Anger, frustration, confusion, helplessness etc... most of the time we already have the answers to our own problems, challenges, situations we just need to talk about them to others and express how we feel to find those ansewrs in ourselves.
Some challenges are a lot more difficult to deal with then others. Staas, I know people like you friend. Sounds like you have been trying to help him for 6 months and nothing is working. It is hard dealing with addicts. Addicts, most of the time only know and care about themselves and their drug of choice. If I were you I would contact some kind of local rehab center and ask for assistance. Let them know the situation and get some suggestions. It sounds like you want to help him first.
Sometimes people are not ready for the help or the change and it begins to affect everyone around them. When this happens and you begin to see yourself suffering you need to make a choice to stay or go. It's called tough love. You can choose to dead a friendship, family member, girl/boy friend, etc... once you feel you have existed all possibilities to help that person. It sucks to have to say "I'm out of here"... but sometimes if you don't you will be brought down as a result of their behavior. Good luck..
Everyone on this post please keep us updated on your challenge/s.
UNO
-Sabac Red-
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oobe
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Post by oobe on Oct 15, 2006 23:14:59 GMT -5
My challenge is just life... waking up, going to work, always the same cycle... even tho i try to make the best out my life... I never feel truly satisfied with how i live my life...
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staas
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Post by staas on Oct 15, 2006 23:29:52 GMT -5
My challenge is just life... waking up, going to work, always the same cycle... even tho i try to make the best out my life... I never feel truly satisfied with how i live my life... i think that's a common issue for everyone. unless you have a large mix of talent,luck, and work ethic it's hard to get an exciting path to go on in your life.
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